He’s also the author of The Tao of Dating: The Thinking Man’s Enlightened Guide to Success With Women. So that was kind of the first step, and that got me moving to write the book, but it didn’t get me to finish the book.He holds a Bachelor’s degree from Harvard, and he’s got an MD degree from the University of California at San Diego School of Medicine, and also I notice a Master’s of Philosophy from Cambridge University. What got me to finish the book was actually a dinner I had with two of my old classmates from college, and we sat down and we were eating and one of them, they’d both been divorced, one of them was dating a guy, and this guy that she was dating, it, you know, she was supporting him, he was a starving artist type, and at the same time he was kind of being emotionally abusive, so it didn’t make a lot of sense to me. ” And later on it came to light that he was actually beating her up, and that just absolutely broke my heart, and I thought, you know, if the, if this book can help one amazing woman like this friend of mine, kind of gather up her power again and really go after what she wants and what makes her happy, ‘cause she deserves the best… D., a Master of Philosophy, and a certification in clinical hypnotherapy.But Alex Benzer ’93, author of “The Tao of Dating for Men” and “The Tao of Dating for Women”, just wants to help you find “the middle path.” FM chatted with Benzer about dating, dropping the H-bomb, and picking up the phone for Mom mid-makeout. Fifteen Minutes: What compelled you to write your books and articles about dating?Those kids graduate and pretty much continue to have the same dating woes — only now with fewer single people around living in the same building and sharing meals with them every day. Take piano, violin, tennis, swimming and Tibetan throat-singing lessons. Be ‘well-rounded.’ Well, you’re a talented little bugger. At the same time, there’s an opportunity cost associated with achievement.So if they had challenges then, it gets about 1000 times worse once they’re expelled from the warm womb of alma mater. On the other hand, it makes screw it up (or a computer). Time spent studying, doing homework, and practicing the violin is time not spent doing other things — like chasing boys or girls, which turns out is fairly instrumental in making you a well-rounded human.
He writes for huffingtonpost.com, and he maintains his own hypnotherapy practice in the L. So that was kind of the motivation that got me to finish the book.books specifically for really smart people (both women and men).The writing of the books was precipitated by the endemic dating woes on the Harvard campus, as I observed them as an advisor and, earlier, wallowed in them as a student.So this is for all the women out there who are like my friend that was actually featured in the introduction, and yeah, giving them a way to get back their power and really get the fulfillment that they deserve in their love lives.Chip August: Now I notice you wrote one book for men and you wrote one book for women. Alex Benzer: Yeah, the book for men I finished in about three months.Dating is at best another extracurricular, #6 or #7 down the list, somewhere between Model UN and intramural badminton.I’ve been co-hosting young alumni events for name-brand schools for long enough to know that these kids come out a little lopsided (which sounds so much better than ‘socially awkward’, don’t you think? All they need is a little tune-up, or a proper dating textbook to get them going — plus a little practice.Alex collected what he knew about Men, Women, Dating, and the idea of the Tao, the Way, and produced 2 great books- The Tao of Dating for Men, and his latest, The Tao of Dating for Women. We’re going to be talking about a smart woman’s guide to embracing her inner goddess and to finding her fulfillment, ‘cause we’re talking to Dr. I’m a little curious though, why did you write it, why’d you write a book, and particularly why did you, a man, write a book telling women about how they can find fulfillment? Alex Benzer: That’s an excellent question Chip, and there was a general reason and there was a very personal reason behind it.Join us for a fun chat about men, women, relationship, fulfillment, spirituality and so much more. Alex Benzer, who’s the author of the just released The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Embracing Your Inner Goddess and Finding the Fulfillment You Deserve. The general came about when I was an advisor for undergrads at Harvard, and I’d sit down with them for dinner just, you know, hanging out with them, chatting and seeing what’s going on with their lives, and dating was a pretty frequent topic that would come up and how little of it was actually happening on campus what was shocking. ”, and I realized, you know, I was in their shoes and when I was one of them I had the same issue, and I’d come a ways since then, I’d figured out some stuff on my own, I’m like, “You know, these are great guys. They shouldn’t have to go through the same trial and error that I did.” So I thought, you know, it’d be good to give them a book because Harvard kids, they’re pretty good at learning stuff that’s in books.At the same time, nothing has influenced my life quite as much as the principles of Taoist philosophy and Eastern wisdom.I'm absolutely convinced that they help you become a happier, calmer, more empowered and more fulfilled human being.