As he began to rape her, she said, she asked whether he would get a condom, and he let go of her.
In late 2015 I made a vow to be celibate for a year, taking the time to evaluate my emotional needs and expectations without sex clouding my judgment.
In that case, she filed a complaint with the college.
While I’m still single, I did reach at least the three-date mark with two guys.In a test of shifting attitudes about HIV, a group of state lawmakers has proposed that it no longer be a felony for someone to knowingly expose others to the disease by engaging in unprotected sex and not telling the partner about the infection. Scott Wiener (D-San Francisco) and others would make such acts a misdemeanor, a proposal that has sparked opposition from Republican lawmakers.The same downgrade in crime level would apply to people who donate blood or semen without telling the blood or semen bank that they have acquired immunodeficiency syndrome, or AIDS, or have tested positive for human immunodeficiency virus, or HIV, the precursor to AIDS.“HIV-related stigma is one of our main obstacles to reducing and ultimately eliminating infections,” Wiener said.But as the movie wore on, he started kissing her and she felt uncomfortable.“It got to the part where he tried to take off my clothes,” she said.“I was like, ‘No, please stop.’ He was like, ‘No, you’ll like it.’ And I was like, ‘No, stop.’ ”“Some people are able to yell or scream, but when I get really stressed out I kind of shut down, so I just sort of disassociated myself and was trying to figure out how to get him off of me,” she said.“When you criminalize HIV or stigmatize people who have HIV it encourages people not to get tested, to stay in the shadows, not to be open about their status, not to seek treatment.”Currently, those convicted of felonies can be sentenced up to seven years in prison.Between 1988 and June 2014, there were 357 convictions in California for an HIV-specific felony that would have been downgraded by SB 239, according to a study by the Williams Institute at the UCLA School of Law, which conducts research on sexual orientation and gender identity law and public policy."Many of the myths and assumptions and forms of skepticism that we see from judges approaching rape victims and other kinds of sexual assault victims are likely to be present in stealthing cases."One woman, who chose to remain anonymous, recalls her experience with stealthing in the study where she said her assailant dismissed her claims of any wrongdoing."I’d been seeing this guy for a couple weeks," she remembers.Furthermore, as an openly gay male and a universal blood donor, I wanted to be able to give blood.(When the Food and Drug Administration lifted its ban on blood donations from gay men, it was with the caveat that they abstained from sex for 12 months.) Despite the temptations, I have fulfilled this promise to myself — while learning a thing or two along the way.