Principle #1 Become a Christian who is mature enough to marry and seek a Christian who is mature enough to marry In Eph. and Prov. the Scriptures talk about the qualities of a Christian husband and wife.
A Christian man should be seeking to develop the qualities of a Christian husband who will love his wife as Christ loved the church and he should be seeking a Christian woman who is developing the qualities of becoming a Biblically excellent wife.
After a you and the person you are dating have had enough time and opportunity to come to a solid knowledge of each other, you may begin to seriously consider the possibility of marrying each other.
This begins a process whereby you both individually come to a personal commitment to marry each other.
A Christian woman should be seeking to develop the qualities of becoming a Biblically excellent wife and should be seeking a Christian man who is developing the qualities of a Christian husband who will love his wife as Christ loved the church.
This should be done before you consider marriage with someone.
We get a lot of questions from young Christian men and women who are “not yet married.” Their season of life awakens many desires and hopes, uncertainties and insecurities, and tricky pastoral questions. All of a sudden, you start wondering what is the rock on which you ground your life? They may go underground until a crisis appears – an accident, a child with a serious illness, or a looming divorce.To help find the right questions, we called on three not-yet-married friends who gave some time to thinking about the challenges faced by singles: Lore Ferguson, Paul Maxwell, and the recently engaged Marshall Segal.We ended up with these questions: The Bible commands Christians to marry “in the Lord,” that is, to marry other Christians (1 Corinthians ; 2 Corinthians ).It transitions into engagement when the man verbalizes his commitment to marry the woman by asking her to marry him.As each of you begin considering in your own mind and heart the possibility of marriage, you need to follow several important principles according to the Scriptures which are given below.Because what I have tragically found is that Christian singles hit an area of desperation, particularly young women, and they will go: “Yeah, he is a Christian, he comes to church.” And really what they’re saying is this guy comes to church a couple of times a month, but outside of attending a service, he doesn’t have a real seriousness about growing in his understanding of the Lord, growing in his understanding of the Bible, being a prayerful person, no vivication or mortification that can be spotted, and no one who really knows them enough to speak to the growth in their character.Now practically speaking, this means singles are seeking out people to speak into their lives.The average duration of courtship varies considerably throughout the world.Furthermore, there is vast individual variation between couples.