Problem is, surrounding yourself with a posse makes you unapproachable. "He's afraid of being rejected in front of an audience." To make yourself available, go out with just one wingwoman or separate from the crew and work the room solo.
How many times have you found yourself saying, "Ugh, there are no cute guys here"?
And yet, the following week, you're back at the same bar, with the same people, saying the same thing.
"Well, if you want to find a great catch, you should venture outside of your comfort zone," says New York City psychologist and life coach Janice D. The next time a pal invites you to a film class or suggests you hit karaoke night at some dive, give it a shot.
He was barely audible, speaking just above a whisper. During the course of conversation Sarah learned that he hadn't gone to college and worked as a clerk in a hospital.
She was a counselor at Victims Information Bureau where she counseled victims of rape, sexual assault and spouse abuse.
So unless he acts like a sleaze, give the guy a break and talk to him.
If he still leaves you cold, politely excuse yourself and move on.
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He holds a Master of Arts in sociology and a Juris Doctor.