Don’t bare all too soon (literally or figuratively)!When you meet long distance it can be easy to jump in the deep end and move too fast in your new relationship.By Frank Back during the spring semester of my senior year, Michelle and I were having difficulties. I didn’t want to leave her, she wasn’t interested in seeing other people, and I wasn’t too busy to pay attention to her.We were going through a conversation “lull” phase – one of the most common problems in long distance relationships.
It can take real effort to rearrange schedules and make time to talk, especially when things get busy or there is a time difference involved.Sending sweet texts throughout the day, sharing pictures of your daily life, and composing thoughtful emails all show the other person that they're on your mind and worth your time. Since miscommunication can be common and as a result emotions can run high, I heavily suggest waiting to make any big decisions about your relationship until you are in person. From discussions defining the relationship to conversations about moving to the same city, plan to have those in person. It also helps jog their memory about their daily activities and gives them the starting point for a good, open, real conversation. " Again, this opens up a longer and more interesting conversation, shows you care and want to be involved, and gives your partner permission to really open up. So far the theme of this article has been that "you only have conversation" as a means of hanging out.And those emotional, late night, "maybe we should break up" texts. But after a few months of long distance dating my boyfriend, I have come to the unanimous conclusion that conversation is not enough. We've made an effort to have daily experiences together even though we're 600 miles apart.Co-authored by Jody Porowski, CEO of Avelist I told my (long distance) boyfriend that I was writing this article and asked if he had any tips for others in our position. Three words actually: "Don't do it." And I'm not gonna lie, I pretty much agree.But if long distance love calls and you must answer, here are some tips from my/our experience. I'd actually never been in a long distance relationship before this one so I didn't really know what to expect. I don't think I realized how much "normal" relationships are spent just experiencing life together.We talked about everything– even what we had eaten for lunch that day.When we tell that to people, they sometimes look at us like we’re absolutely out of our minds.I mean, that was just our life – we ran out of things to say.I felt I knew Michelle well enough where if I said anything, I could predict her response. She already knew my schedule, and my life was dull, so why would she bother to ask what I was doing?If one person has to wake up early for work, we both set our alarms and call each other as a backup alarm. No matter what you decide, I highly encourage you to have this conversation and attempt to be on the same page! When push comes to shove, reality is reality, and you don't live in the same city as your significant other.Though we are not morning people at all, a few wake up calls have turned into 45 minute conversations, because it's nice to start the day together. When you haven't seen each other in a long time, it's tempting to want massive amounts of alone time just the two of you. While sulking and crying can seem like a valid option, I'm here to tell you that it's not.