1) Pick a mature (not silly or arrogant) screen name.
Big Mikey9inch may sound clever to you, but chances are Sweet Jen28 will want nothing to do with a guy who feels the need to "advertise" (particularly when you're probably closer to Not So Big Mikey4inch).
"A hat leads her to assume you have a balding problem that you are trying to hide," says Coloccia.
Remember - you are trying to create the impression that you are a confident, social, fun, and passionate individual that is not obviously trying to convey these characteristics.
You want to do your very best to make as much of an impact on your first impression as you can.
This makes is all the easier for them to start talking to you.
Instead of struggling with how to start talking to you online, they can just begin by asking you what the story is behind your username.