When we meet others for the first time, we need to assess quickly whether they are positive or negative towards us, just as most other animals do for survival reasons.
We do this by scanning the other person's body to see if they will move or gesture the same way we do in what is known as 'mirroring'.
This is the difference between a good conversation and a punch or slap.
Mirroring can be achieved by copying any of these things: Some say that accents can be mirrored, but I don't think this is true.
We mirror each other's body language as a way of bonding, being accepted and creating rapport, but we are usually oblivious to the fact that we are doing it.
In ancient times, mirroring was also a social device which helped our ancestors fit in successfully with larger groups; it is also a left-over from a primitive method of learning which involved imitation.
When someone is first asked to understand that an irritating person is merely offering him a mirror image of himself, he will strongly resist this idea. It would be convenient if we could always place the blame on the other person, but this is not always so easy.Mirroring is simply the process of mimicking subtle behaviours within whoever we are communicating.Before you go and start mimicking someone's every word, be aware that mirroring must be subtle as to appear to be unconscious!Mirroring is one of the (if not the) most useful NLP techniques there are.If someone is very good at mirroring, it is very difficult to dislike them.While this truth applies to all of your relationships, from your family, to your friends and colleagues, and even to those you deem your "enemy", it is your relationship with your significant other that enables you to take the closest, most accurate look at who you are.When Only the Face Seems to Change: It is certainly no secret that all your intimate relationships tend to be similar.This begs the question, why do I need to write about mirroring, if it's so natural?Because just like any other skill you can name, there are vastly different levels of ability, and you can get much better by practicing.Rather, he will argue that he is not the angry, violent, depressed, guilt-ridden, critical, or complainer person that his mirror/teacher is reflecting. First, ask yourself "If the problem truly is the other fellow's and not my own then why does being around that person affect me so negatively?" Nonetheless, it is no coincidence that we are conjoined within our family units and our relationships to learn from one another.