For someone like me who is certainly almost incapable of giving her attention or affection to more than one man at a time, this concept of keeping options open has been a huge challenge. But, last week, I was interviewing a friend, ‘Sade’, for an article, we started on the topic of multi-dating and she said to me: “Nkem. Stay open to dating multiple people until you receive the official commitment you are looking for, because in the end, not keeping your options open will be your own fault.” For the first time, I was willing to entertain the thought without reservations.Just like me, Sade had initially been of the school of thought that dating more than one person held the risk of dilettantish shallowness.Maximum of 2 rostered C Players in any sanctioned group are allowed on D Rosters. Maximum of 3 rostered D (Silver) players allowed on broze teams. The upper brackets will include D and C teams as classified by 3 governing bodies ie USSSA, NSA, ASA.For someone like me who is certainly almost incapable of giving her attention or affection to more than one man at a time, this concept of keeping options open has been a huge challenge. But, last week, I was interviewing a friend, ‘Sade’, for an article, we started on the topic of multi-dating and she said to me: “ shallowness.It ensured you never do anything with any of the men wholeheartedly, and you get yourself trapped in the circle of indefinitely postponing a decision until you’re certain it’s a perfect choice – a conviction that is never achieved. Bode was like a breath of fresh air after a series of failed relationships.Once a team inputs there roster on-line we classify your team accordingly.I realize there are D teams that think they should be E as well as C that think they should be D .
I also just got asked out by another guy (Chris) from school who seems to have a big crush on me and is a pretty sweet guy himself.See, the great thing about dating multiple people or at least keeping your options open, is that it prevents you from investing too much of yourself to the wrong person and it gives you the ability to realistically assess the person (or people) that you’re seeing through direct comparison.It’s actually FAR healthier than just closing yourself off to SEEING one person at a time.I took Chris up on a date this Saturday after he boldly asked me out after class.I really like Joe but I do not want to put all my eggs in one basket by committing my weekends to him.And with all the attention and affection he bestowed on Sade, she started to feel like all her relationship dreams were finally going to come true.Out of the blues, Bode stopped calling or making plans with her as he used to.Whenever I tell women that, they tend to believe that I’m saying they should HOE around and let their p*ssy be traded like Facebook stock, when that’s NOT what I’m saying at all.When I tell dudes that, they tend to believe that I’m telling them to stick to the PLAYER lifestyle and try to run through as much random nani as possible.If you consider yourself a grown-ass adult in 2013, and you still subscribe to the ideology that it’s perfectly cool to CLOSE all your dating options BEFORE you receive a commitment, you are simply an IDIOT.I know I must’ve written about this topic NUMEROUS times already, but there’s one point I continually stress that most women AND men tend to frequently misunderstand or ignore: Always be open to dating MULTIPLE people until you receive the OFFICIAL commitment you are looking for.