Female roles in dating

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WASHINGTON — In dating, money may be the biggest taboo.

An Associated Press-WE tv poll finds that two-thirds of Americans think it’s tougher to talk money with your romantic partner than it is to talk sex. And when people do lay out their thoughts on money and gender in the dating scene, all kinds of contradictions emerge.

Seven in 10 of those surveyed say it’s unacceptable to expect a date to pay for everything.

On the other hand, it’s dis-empowering, unfair, confining, demeaning, belittling, etc. Maybe I’m expecting too much, but am I the only one out there who believes that we should make the effort to overcome our basic animal instincts?

As women have become more educated and independent, we no longer require a husband to support us and this fact has changed the face of courting. If women may earn just as much money as men, why should they not be able to invite a man out and pay for a date? I suppose that we could just chuck thousands of years of evolution and revert back to the days of Cro Magnum Man.

Have we won the right to ask for a man’s phone number? As gender roles become less and less distinct, it creates difficulty in the dating world. I for one do not want a man who is not secure enough with himself to be able to accept a woman asking him out on a date.

Once you know you have a standing date on Saturday night, you have moved on to the first phase of relationship.

This can be a great opportunity for partners to all dedicate some quality time to really thinking about what sort of dynamics or roles they prefer in a relationship, and why, and figuring out how to make those preferences work for everyone.

If it's not something you've ever discussed with a partner, it might feel odd at first to talk about what can seem like minor details, or hard to know why you prefer things a certain way, but practice makes this easier.

That it is essential to the power structure of the species, and that if a female makes the first move, the man will, for the duration of the relationship, feel as if he wasn’t in control in the relationship. I wonder if these same women feel uncomfortable with the right to vote and the right to own property and the right to decide what happens to their own bodies. And those are probably the same men whose egos are much too fragile to allow them to carry on a relationship with a woman who makes more money than them, or who has a career that is much more successful than theirs, or who has opinions about politics. Or that women should only hold menial jobs so that they will never surpass men in earning or career potential?

And there are also a lot of women who enjoy being “old-fashioned” and feel it’s a sign of weakness for a man not to make the first move, or they just simply enjoy the ‘traditional” progression of relationships. And I get equally nauseated at the “men are hunters/women are gatherers” argument. Are women so desperate to be in relationships that they are willing to continue to be dis-empowered?