Though it's discouraging news, being able to expose the problem is the first step toward finding a solution. Maybe you've been through a breakup but you can't stop thinking about your ex.I am a firm believer that the solution for meeting more people is online dating.The truth is, the modern dating system has only been around for less than a century.And it is my conviction that the wordly system of dating, as it is currently conducted by most people, is far from God's original plan, as described in the Bible. I grew up as a member of the homeschool community back when we were hiding from the cops and getting our textbooks from public school dumpsters.When I was a teenager, my friends started reading this new book called I Kissed Dating Goodbye. After reading it myself, I grew into as big an opponent of dating as you could find.I explained what courtship was and quoted Joshua Harris, chapter and verse. “I don’t think courtship is a smart idea,” my grandfather said.“How can you tell who you want to marry if you aren’t going out on dates? I ignored their advice on relationships, preferring to listen to the young people around me who were passionate advocates of courtship.
My grandparents would often ask why I wasn’t dating in high school.” my grandmother wondered every time the topic came up. They both obstinately held to the position that courtship was a foolish idea. As I grew older, I started to speak at homeschool conferences and events.I talked with homeschool parents, students and alumni all over the country and started to see some challenges with making courtship work.The current model that we are using is ineffective, at best. Dating was invented in the early part of this century.Prior to that time, marriage always involved much more input from the parents, and "trial relationships" leading up to marriage were not conducted at all.It just means that people enter into courtships for the purpose of a serious, future-focused relationship. If you're a woman eager to let the man take the lead, by all means, let him!Be honest and direct about your intentions when you start dating someone. For those who prefer an equal-opportunity approach to dating, try letting him pay now and then (or at least hold the door for you) without being deeply offended.Many men like to feel they're leading the way, even if you know you secretly have the upper-hand. In more conservative circles, pastors and parents act as matchmakers.The goal is for the family to help the man and woman stay accountable for their level of commitment to each other.Courtship, as discussed in more detail subsequently, seeks to emulate the Godly models described in the Bible that were conducted by God's people up until the invention of dating.Dating is a stage of romantic or sexual relationships in humans whereby two or more people meet socially, possibly as friends or with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in a more committed intimate relationship or marriage.