We're talking emotional and financial commitment here.
Because there's no judge or clergy to pronounce you married, family becomes a state of mind.
Here you are, a gay or lesbian person in love with a parent. Are you a friend, an “aunt” or “uncle,” or a stepparent?
The two have featured their relationship on social media since announcing it in November. And you understand that every bit of it was necessary and that every bit of it was holy. Her partner is a woman and that woman is celebrity soccer champ Abby Wambach.Covers the “how-tos” of lesbian-headed households discussing many germane topics from conception to adoption, addressing homophobia in age-appropriate ways and dealing with a myriad of other societal and school issues.Raising a child is overwhelming, thrilling, exhausting, terrifying, and joyous–and all at the same time.Christian mom blogger Glennon Doyle Melton has announced her engagement to soccer star Abby Wambach. Glennon Doyle Melton has reiterated for years her position affirming that same-sex marriage is not sinful and celebrating love in various forms. And because of all of that love, they are brave.” Melton’s coming out follows fellow inspirational author and friend Elizabeth Gilbert, of “Eat, Pray, Love” fame. Feels like the world could use all the love it can get right now. https://t.co/3Ku DQ4e0Su pic.twitter.com/6vvx Bq NUj4 — Glennon Doyle Melton (@Momastery) November 14, 2016 Melton’s news comes three months after she announced her divorce from Craig Melton, her husband of 14 years, and two months after Wambach told the media she was divorcing Sarah Huffman, her wife of three years, in the wake of a DUI arrest that pushed her to confront her addiction to alcohol and drugs.Only the two of you can answer the question of when you are a family. Gay and lesbian relationships have the same long-term success rates as heterosexual relationships, so that's not an issue. What's it like to be out of the closet and see your stepkids suffering from bigotry and ignorance?Let's assume that this isn't just a dating situation, but that you're deeply in love and building a life together. There's that legal stuff looming, especially if the other bioparent does not approve (as is often the case). How can you be a stepparent to somebody who doesn't know you're gay?Though research shows that heterosexual and same-sex marriages don't fundamentally differ in terms of commitment and satisfaction, I would contend that having two parents who are keenly aware of the benefits of marriage, and commitment can only work to a family's benefit. It's me, the mother, who bolts upright in the middle of the night in a fit of panic for forgetting the school field trip or afterschool registration or birthday-party RSVP, while my husband blissfully sleeps through the night.Surprisingly, the number one mistake you are probably committing when in a lesbian relationship has nothing to do with your relationship with your girl.(Another Christian mom and blogger, Jen Hatmaker, came under fire last month for announcing her support of same-sex marriage for the first time.) [The high cost of popular evangelical Jen Hatmaker’s gay marriage comments] In the Facebook post, Melton admitted to her 645,000 followers that yes, it’s been a quick transition to new love. Both Melton and Gilbert, who had not openly been in lesbian relationships before, first shared their news on Facebook, discussed the importance of living their truth and referred to their new partners as “my person.” The similarities reflect what fans immediately notice: Both women value transparency and share an open-life-memoir writing style.She said her ex-husband supports her relationship with Wambach and that they make “beautiful, modern family” together: “They’re lucky kids, to be surrounded by so much love. Both have undergone spiritual journeys, separations and sexual awakenings.