She worked for the State of Colorado and was investigating her employer for financial fraud.As she grew to trust me she confided various details of her undercover assignments.We started going out together once or twice a week, as friends.One night we jokingly agreed to be each other's PLAN B in case we didn't hook up with strangers at the party we were going too (again, classy, I know! Before I dropped her off I announced that I needed a glass of water from her apartment.You're on this website because you were either born a smart person (which as you will see by the end of this article is actually not such a You will understand some of the vexing problems that you have, up to this point in your life, failed to beat with your smarts and intellectual resources. We had a 1 hour conversation about smart people problems in Podcast #26, give it a download!For each problem we identify solutions; both actionable behaviors to change and deeper mindsets to internalize. The girl I met a midst the suds aggressively thrust me into her social group.Yet if the very thing you’re attracted to never leads to the relationship of your dreams, don’t you think it may be wise to make some adjustments? You’d make adjustments if you didn’t feel good about your body on January 1st.
It becomes more complex, more intricate and MUCH more delicate. The more intelligent we become, the less there is to wonder.I need, nay, the intellectual engagement, and legions of smart, educated men feel similarly.So it pains me to no end to see my smart, educated, lovely female friends remain single, alone and lonely in spite of their best efforts. Surely there is something wrong with the world if they remain single for so long.2017 Update: I've spent the past 5 years doing lifestyle design experiments, trying to systematize and build habits to minimize the idiosyncrasies and insecurities that arise from my intellect.I've done a pretty good job of beating the smart people problems. ” If I had a dollar for the number of women who have said that to me, well, let’s just say I’d be writing this from Tahiti, not Los Angeles. And I can’t disagree with you: attraction is NOT a choice. It means that person wants a partner to share life’s adventures. So, the more independent and intelligent you are, the harder it is for you to find love. Why do people break up even when things are (seemingly) going well? They don’t want to spend every single day with their significant others. Talking is natural, but we have professional speakers.And even if they love each other, they need time for themselves. When two people enter a relationship, they give up some of their independence in order to have a loving and caring partnership. But the more independent you are, the more likely you are to feel suffocated. Thinking is also natural, and we have scholars and philosophers. They can be endlessly fascinating and even more frustrating. And yet you still say you want a man who is smarter than you are. Sounds like a pretty exhausting relationship, doesn’t it? It does mean that you need to accept men who are not in the 98th percentile of intelligence, and recognize that there are plenty of amazing, bright, relationship-oriented men who may not be smarter than you. They have enough information and ammunition to be impossible to argue with. That does NOT mean that you are going to find yourself with a man who has never read a newspaper, who has no interest in foreign travel, or who can’t keep up with you and your friends.