What’s worse, the fallout from these failed office romances can be far more brutal than a run-of-the-mill relationship.
And if not, is one of you prepared to switch jobs or departments?You will probably have had the opportunity to study this person quite closely before starting to date them. What do you expect the company will think about a romance between you?Work is a way of test-driving a potential partner (ie getting to know them) before taking the plunge and asking them out. Etiquette: Dating a work colleague requires a good amount of old-fashioned social etiquette, not because it will make you any more attractive but because it will make the whole process a lot more comfortable and a lot less difficult, if and when the whole thing ends. Working with someone means forging an effective relationship.There are obvious plus points to meeting your partner at work: 1.You know you will have at least one thing in common, as well as an informed ear to bounce all your troubles off when you get home in the evening; 2.If the rumor mill goes into high gear, that might be the right time.If nobody seems to notice, there's no reason to share. You and your new partner need to agree on some ground rules and come up with a plan for how you will keep it professional and stay within written or unwritten rules. "You may have the burden of overcompensating with professionalism and keeping an artificial distance, which can be an awkward strain," says Taylor.But sometimes, that's way easier said than done — especially if your job requires you to spend long hours and tight cubicles with the same person.Tempting (and steamy) as it may be, it can also turn out to be super awkward and traumatic — something we all saw unfold on the first season of 1. Like in the "think about it for a few extra days" way, not in the literal sense.Are you willing to live with the regret of not knowing? No need to go into details about your feelings for bae, but do tell your boss that the relationship won't interfere with your work performance. Rather than turning it into the source of all office gossip in perpetuity, use discretion when telling your coworkers. Keep your attention where it should be during office hours. Quick backstory: We didn't meet on the job — we were dating for almost four years before we started working together (which, by the way, wasn't planned … But for about 11 months, we sat three cubes apart from one another and kept our relationship under wraps. People sometimes act differently at work than they do in their personal life. No need to send a blast email with "the news" of you and your cube-mate's new relationship.