In the best cases, the people involved had veto power; that is, neither one had to accept the match. We vainly imagine this power of choice is the same as freedom, but if we have no basis on which to choose other than our subjective urges, transient likes and dislikes, and fantasies based on movies, novels and occasional glimpses at internet pornography, then choice is not freedom but bondage: bondage to the ideals of a sick culture and the passions of a fallen mind.
So this is where we start: one priest's dating guide for Orthodox Christians.
What it means is that you look for Christ-like virtues: kindness, gentleness, self control, faith, joy, etc.
People with these qualities or who are seeking these qualities will help you develop these qualities.
As part of the Orthodox Faith, Christians pray both as a community and individually.
Here is some more information about the ins and outs of prayer in the Orthodox Church.