IMG_1896 via photopin (license)" height="213" src="https://cdn.psychologytoday.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-inline-half/public/field_blog_entry_images/8609834555_774078a007.jpg? itok=ADx I7F4B" title="// Dating is hard enough as it is but dating in an Asian-American context is made even more difficult because of potential cultural differences.Traditional Asians pride themselves on their marriages, families, children, and continuation of the family lineage so when their sons/daughters begin dating someone they don't approve of, it's going to a difficult process.STEP ONE: Finding an Asian Asian girls typically hang out at one of three places: the mall, the library, or Pinkberry. If, by the end of the night, she giggles into her napkin/hand fan, you've got yourself a second date.When you get there, look around: the best Asian girl to pick up will be the one wearing a hoodie and heels (there is always one). As she takes out her phone to tell you, you should make a nice comment about her phone flair (Asian girls always have some bedazzled jank hanging off our phones, usually a cartoon duck or a jade tiger). Asian girls will go on a date with anyone if she can tell a cutesy story about it later: "And then, after he saw my Keroppi keychain, he asked me out at Pinkberry! " STEP TWO: The First Date It doesn't matter where you take an Asian girl on a first date as long as you stick to the following topics of conversation: food, fashion, and making fun of other Asians ("So, your friends just stayed in and did math problems? However, no matter what you do, don't step on the yellow-fever land mine that is acknowledging the Asian fetish.Hey, we all have a check list whether we’re vocal about it or whether it’s subconscious.
Many websites have their share of financial scammers, and it is next to impossible to screen them out entirely. Family is so important in the Asian culture that when you date an Asian woman, consider that you may also have to court every single member of her family.Of course, dating an Asian girl is very different from dating your typical Nancy or Betty.So, in order to snag yourself a Mulan, I present to you a White Man's Guide to Dating Asian Girls.Regardless of the differences, if the couple truly desires to stay together and are committed to the relationship then my recommendation in therapy is for them to stay the course.But I also know from many different couples that this can mean facing possible ostracism from family members.While an Asian woman will be happy to learn about you and your interests, it would be nice if you also took the time to ask about what makes her frustrated and sad or happy and fulfilled. Throwing out typical Asian stereotypes is one of the quickest ways to send an Asian girl running in the other direction.It’s a given that you have a “thing” for Asian women if you are registered on an site, so this doesn’t need to be verbalized.Given our immigrant roots, most Asian girls endure a latent insecurity about everything from our boobs to our patriotism (both things that are just slightly there). But if you're going to lock it down and marry your Oriental princess, you must know one final thing: in Chinese wedding traditions, the groom pays for the wedding.So, as her white, Jewish (80% of the time), totally-secure-and-normal boyfriend, you better be prepared for when your girlfriend mistakes "soup or salad" for "super salad." And since Asians have eyes like gravy boats, her crying jags are bound to extend late into the night. STEP FOUR: Locking it Down If you've made it this far, then you know all the dirty secrets of dating an Asian girl. You know we pretend to love drinking, even though we turn into full-blown red-faced injuns when we do. (According to my mom, the tradition stems from the groom's family giving the bride's family a cow in exchange for her.) So, if you're going to marry an Asian, get ready to empty your pockets. Of course, because of this, my parents want me to marry a Chinese guy and my brother to marry a white girl. Don’t go in expecting that every Asian woman knows martial arts or is a professional masseuse- that’s just silly.Treat each lady that you meet as an individual and don’t assume that you are trading messages with Lucy Liu’s distance that you’ll want to avoid.